Let’s unpack a concept that often goes unspoken in coaching sessions: the intersection of identity and how it can shape the dynamics of a coaching relationship. This concept could be referred to as “Coaching Intersectionality,” a term that’s growing in exploration and relevance, especially as coaching becomes more inclusive.

Intersectionality

Intersectionality is a term popularized by Dr. Kimberlé Crenshaw, examines how various aspects of a person’s identity can overlap to create unique experiences of advantage or disadvantage. This is crucial in understanding the coaching dynamic because coaches work with individuals who possess a multitude of identities, including, but not limited to, race, gender, religion, sexuality, and ability status.

The Role of Identity in Selecting a Coach Choosing a coach is a personal decision that can benefit from considering the following factors:

1. Affinity Bias

Affinity bias is our natural tendency to connect more with those who appear similar to us. It’s vital to be aware of this bias in selecting a coach to ensure that we’re not only relying on superficial elements, like appearance or shared interests, but are instead focused on deeper, meaningful connections.

2. Lived Experience

While shared lived experiences between a coach and a client can foster understanding, it’s not always necessary. The emphasis should be on a coach’s ability to comprehend and respect your identity, even without shared personal history.

3. Context and Socialization

Understanding the cultural backdrop and social upbringing can be crucial. Some elements of coaching, like setting boundaries, may be perceived differently across cultures. It’s important to find a coach who acknowledges and appreciates these differences, without forcing a perspective.

The coaching industry, like many others, is working towards inclusivity. This journey requires coaches to be aware of and open to discussions about identity and intersectionality and you to be empowered and welcomed to take part in those discussions.

Coaching should empower the client, and it must be a partnership built on trust, understanding, and intentional decisions.

Questions to Consider When Choosing a Coach

For those considering coaching, it’s essential to ask questions about inclusion, identity, and lived experiences. This ensures that your needs and perspectives are fully acknowledged in the coaching relationship. Remember, it’s not unreasonable to expect a coach to be culturally aware and empathetic.

Whether you’re a current or prospective client, intersectionality and identity is welcomed as part of your decision-making process when choosing a coach. This ensures that the partnership formed is genuine, understanding, and capable of fostering your personal growth.