First, you need to find out what you need for your emotional, mental and physical wellbeing.
Some things, like regular exercises, work for everyone. In her book “Lean In”, Sandberg writes that she regrets not getting enough sleep in her earlier years. “If I could go back and change one thing about how I lived in those early years. I would force myself to get more sleep.”
Other activities are very individual. Do you like knitting, or does it remind you of wasted hours spent in an after school club? Is reading more stressful than relaxing as you always reach for business books? Consciously choose things that help you to destress and don’t serve another hidden purpose.
Second, many things that are bad for you in excess can help you to unwind if done in moderation. A good movie on Netflix watched together with your family or a friend, can help you decompress after a long day of work. Binge-watching a whole series until 4 am? Not so much.
Third, tap into the power of community. A study of business school graduates by Proceedings of the Natural Academy of Sciences discovered that where the most successful women have a broad network and a smaller inner network of women they feel close to. And a recent survey found that 94% of women felt three was a greater need for networking groups, helping female workers climb the corporate ladder. In such groups, women share advice about the challenges they face as ambitious females in an environment that is not always easy to navigate. They can let their guard down and receive support and guidance.
That’s why there is co-working and group coaching in The Career Clubhouse. Connecting with others who share the same experiences and growing together is a powerful experience.
In my book, that’s better self-care than any Instagram feed can give you.