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Don’t allow yourself to question your impact and value
You’re unique, but the situation isn’t
There is plenty of support and advice to learn from so you can bounce back even more robustly. It’s very easy to feel singled out, specially selected and even shameful about what is happening. But this is part of more folks’ career journeys than you know and is a result of a fluctuating economy amongst other things. I don’t say this to invalidate your experience but encourage you to take perspective that there is plenty of support both in personal accounts and communities resources to help you weather the storm.
Don’t dismiss yourself
Your skills, strengths and talents are still there; they haven’t disappeared or been taken away. What has changed is where you apply those skills, strengths and talents and it’s likely changed before; just this time is more unexpected and out of control.
p.s. If you’re not clear on your skills, strengths and talents, check out The Vault Community.
Don’t take it personally
LTDs, LLCs, and CICs are an entity not led by emotion. It’s easy for a group of individuals to make a decision based on numbers on a piece of paper. An echo chamber forms, solidifying an idea based on budget and expenditure. The human element gets lost instantly. Try to remember that business is business and that when the collective of humans you know as manager, colleague and more gather to have these conversations and make these decisions they are no longer {insert name} but the entity.
Doing the dirty
At times, unfair dismissal will be the reasoning behind a layoff or redundancy. Hence, it’s essential to know your rights and do your research so you can protect yourself and not allow organisations to get away with cutting corners. There are many industry bodies, unions, HR consultants and legal professionals who can advise you if you’re unsure.
Protect your peace before pursuing productivity
Remember to breathe (literally)
Take a moment and pay attention to how your body copes under stress. Acknowledge the signs that it’s shutting down and not responding as quickly as usual, seek medical professional help where needed. Take the long walks, be around animals and escape the city to restore a sense of balance and wellness. You will struggle to make decisions and show up if your not getting proper rest, nutrition and care.
Don’t pretend everything is okay
The best way to learn from an experience is to sit in the emotion of it. Lean into it. Register and absorb. You will know how to respond to an experience appropriately only after registering how you’re feeling. For every challenging thought, unhelpful belief or moment of self-doubt, there will be a root. Bring those raw thoughts to a trusted friend, therapist or coach.
Don’t build on a shaky foundation
If you try to run before you can walk, you will fall. Try to take a moment and not react straight away. The recruiter you want to call instantly is going nowhere. The silver lining may be that you haven’t looked at your CV in over a year, you’ve lost track of all your new skills, and you’re not even sure you want to keep pursuing the same career path. This can be a micro-reset where you can “tap the ground” of your career to ensure you still stand where you want to be.
p.s. tap the ground refers to my carpenter-dad’s habit of tapping surfaces to understand the material it’s made from i.e. marble, granite
Empaths, run
An empath is described as someone who “is a person highly attuned to the feelings and emotions of those around them. Empaths feel what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level”. If this is you, be wary of your capacity to hold others’ emotions. It can get heavy and start to weigh you down. Try and keep it at an arm’s length. It might feel like you’re being inauthentic, but you are protecting yourself.
Honouring your experience in the moment
The power of time to think
So often, we take thinking time for granted and rely on mental shortcuts to carry us through. Mental shortcuts are detrimental to your development as they stop you from learning and being vulnerable. Growth comes from learning, and learning comes from giving yourself that time.
Be present in the experience
So many emotions arise when we at in a place of uncertainty. Feelings of betrayal, anger, sadness, numbness. Self-compassion for your experience of what’s going on right now will allow you to come out to the other side with a better understanding of how to react next time you find yourself in a place of uncertainty.
The difference between response and reaction
When upset, the default reaction is to lash out. It’s human nature. You’re hurt, so your defences go up. A more effective coping mechanism is to carve out space and sort compassion for you and the other person. Give yourself time to process, understand, and gauge where this feedback or reaction comes from. View the experience as a learning.
What am I making this mean?
A running theme through this article is learning from the experience. Having a takeaway from every negative interaction you ever find yourself in allows you the confidence to come back more equipped, with better-coping mechanisms and a better understanding of yourself and how to react positively.
So much of an experience is unique to you, felt by you. It’s your experience to be had. The situation may be the same, but the learning is how you deal with it, respond, and grow. This mindset will create a greater understanding of how to protect yourself and give space to create more robust mental and professional boundaries.
Self-belief should never be lost in these moments, yet it is the first to be questioned. I want to focus on what can be gained from these challenging times and allow you to thrive instead of doubt. What are the break-glass messages we can take away from the uncontrollable experiences, these harsh realities that so many of us are facing currently? If you are struggling to navigate this season of your career, book a call, I can help.
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